Betrayal has a lasting effect on anyone who has experienced it. From emotional distress to physical health issues, betrayal is a traumatic event that requires healing.
Luckily, we have more power over the healing process than we may realize. If we’re willing to put in the work, we don’t need to let our betrayal hold us back or stop us from moving on.
How can we push past the “survival mode” that typically follows the disbelief of broken trust? Can we ever return to the way we were before being betrayed?
In this episode, holistic psychologist and Founder of The PBT Institute, Dr. Debi Silber shares how to truly heal from betrayal.
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The common saying we need to stop believing
The idea that “time heals all wounds” simply isn’t true. Until we’ve actively dealt with our trauma, no amount of time will stop us from having a lack of trust or experiencing repeat betrayals in the...
One of the most common emotional challenges of going through a divorce is feeling stuck and not being able to put the pain behind us so we can truly move forward. This is rooted in our inability to find closure.
We seek closure in many ways, but often we try to find it in the very same place we were hurt. I recently came across a quote that reminded me that closure is a gift that we can give ourselves. It’s an ongoing process of rising to new levels of awareness and releasing the past so that it doesn’t control us.
We control our own closure, and searching for it externally only keeps us rooted in our pain. Additionally, focusing on the past instead of the future also makes it hard for us to gain closure in a meaningful way.
What are some of the ways a search for closure can be harmful? How do stories we tell ourselves delay our healing process? Why is it important to find closure on our own terms? In this episode, I share what closure in divorce means...
For women, the financial aspect of divorce is often the part that feels hardest to get a handle on. If we didn’t take an active role in the financial side of things in our marriages, it’s natural to feel a lack of confidence figuring out how to negotiate and navigate our finances during and after divorce.
This doesn’t mean we’re not capable of thriving financially. From the negotiation process to future financial decisions, our divorce can be a powerful tool that empowers us, gives us confidence, and allows us to thrive.
By educating ourselves on the most important financial details of life after divorce, we can be more prepared for the process. What are the crucial steps we need to be taking in the lead up to divorce?
In this episode, I’m joined by Divorce Financial Consultant and founder of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA®. She talks about what holds women back from financial recovery after divorce and how to...
Victim mentality is something we all suffer from as we go through divorce, especially when we focus on the negative. However, there is actually some positivity in this situation, and when we start to see the silver lining, we get to stand in our power.
As we start to heal after divorce, we get to look past the current situation, shift our perspective, and focus on the gifts divorce grants us. We have choices and do not have to choose to be the victim. If we focus on gratitude and self-compassion, we can see divorce as an empowering experience that happens FOR us, not TO us.
What actions can we take when negativity strikes? How can we feel more powerful and in control of our lives?
In this episode, I share how to fight the victim mentality and experience the gift of divorce without guilt.
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Why we hold on to pain and fear instead of looking for the positives
Sometimes we feel stubborn in our negative emotions and we...
Our society tends to stigmatize divorce and frame it as something to be ashamed of, but for those who left unhappy, toxic, and abusive marriages, divorce is actually empowering. It is a pivotal moment where we get to rediscover ourselves, own our power, and start designing the life we want.
Divorce is a gift and something worth celebrating, and we can celebrate it with a special piece of jewelry, our very own divorce ring!
By wearing a divorce ring, we have a symbol to remind us of the power our divorce brings us, and the incredible new journey we’re about to embark on. Like my guest, so many of us come out of marriages where we lost our financial independence. Her story shows us that it’s possible to reclaim our independence and make powerful decisions for ourselves and our future.
Where did the idea for a divorce ring come from? Why is divorce jewelry becoming a phenomenon among divorced women?
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For most human beings, it’s terrifying to show our real selves and let people see beneath the armor we present to the world.
We see vulnerability as risky because it reveals our flaws and creates the possibility of being judged or worse, hurt. However feeling vulnerable doesn’t mean we’re in danger. It’s actually something we get to embrace.
The armor we wear is nothing more than our attempt to numb ourselves from feelings we urgently need to face. When we go through a trauma like divorce, this is where that starts to chip away. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s actually an opportunity for massive growth and self-acceptance.
You see, exposing our true feelings of fear, insecurity, and pain is a risk worth taking. When we deny our vulnerability, we cause ourselves more pain.
How can we start to brave the world without our armor and face the uncomfortable emotions we have? Why do we need to stop chasing perfection and excellence? In...
When we leave something, whether it’s a place, a job, or a relationship, we aren’t just closing a chapter. We’re leaving a dream, an identity, and an enormous component of ourselves.
But here’s the thing, leaving isn’t the same as letting go. People can leave a bad marriage and still cling to it mentally and emotionally.
True healing happens when we have the courage to completely release the past, and listen to that inner truth that tells us we’re meant for better. The journey to letting go isn’t easy, but it is one worth taking.
Once we leave our past in the rearview, and stop looking back at it, we can fully step into that new chapter and experience the gift divorce can be.
How do we examine ourselves and determine what our inner voice is trying to tell us? What does moving on actually look like? In this episode, I’m joined by Jill Sherer Murray. She is a TEDx speaker, influencer, and author of the brilliant...
When we’re going through divorce, the emotional upheaval can be so distressing and unsettling that inner peace seems impossible. With everything going on in the world, is it even possible to lead a peaceful life?
Yes. It absolutely is!
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that we can’t always control what’s happening around us, but we do have the power to choose how it affects us. Peace doesn’t mean the absence of challenges. It’s the ability to choose tranquility by controlling our emotional and mental state.
When we have peace, it impacts the filter we see the world through, it changes the stories we tell ourselves, and it releases our attachment to the past and the future so we can live in the present.
What are some of the things that hold us back from inner peace? How can we become neutral towards the things that happen to us, and why is that a strength, not a weakness? In this episode, I discuss why inner peace...
Bad relationships drain us of our happiness, purpose, and most of all, our best selves. When people leave an abusive or traumatic relationship, they may feel like strangers to themselves. So often, we find that we can’t recognize who we became in that situation, and it feels impossible to reconnect with ourselves.
Divorce is a powerful catalyst for taking the journey to self-rediscovery. We get to make changes to our lives on our own terms, break out of the box we were in, and unlock all the amazing and unique things that make us who we are.
I know it’s hard to see through the fog of fear and doubt after a marriage ends, but trust me. On the other side is more joy and authenticity than you could ever imagine.
Why do bad relationships take so much from us? How can we start reclaiming ourselves after losing our identity? In this episode, I’m joined by coach and founder of the You Get To Be You This Time program, Veronika Archer. We talk about...
WHAT IS A NARCISSIST?
“Narcissism” has become the go-to word when describing the personality types that are characterized by selfishness, entitlement, validation-seeking, and lack of empathy. In today’s society, we hear the words ‘Narcissist’ or ‘Narcissism’ tossed around casually to describe the people whom we find obnoxiously pompous and arrogant. Although these descriptions may be accurate, these individuals might actually be living with, what clinicians call, Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
In order for an individual to be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder as defined by the DSM-5, he or she must meet the following criterion: