Unlocking Intimacy Blocks with Melanie Hersch

Did you know there are unconscious patterns that are preventing you from having the love you want?

Melanie Hersch is a psychotherapist-turned-dating-coach that understands the power of limiting beliefs and how they can stop you from connecting authentically and attracting the kind of relationships you desire.

In this episode, Melanie and I define the most common limiting beliefs that are blocking your intimacy and how to identify and heal your own subconscious beliefs that are holding you back. We'll explore what intimacy means, why women struggle with creating intimacy in any relationship, and why getting uncomfortable is necessary for growth. 

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Learn how to identify limiting beliefs

Understand the definition of a limiting belief and how they show up in your daily thoughts and actions.

Identify the difference between compatibility and intimacy

While working together on an external level is important to any relationship, learn...

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5 Secrets to Listen, Not React & Be Heard

Having good communication starts with the ability to listen.

When it comes to speaking with our exes, it’s easy to slip into fear-based thinking that leaves all parties feeling frustrated and unheard.

 In this episode, I’m breaking down the top five ways conscious listening can help you build stronger communication with your ex and improve your confidence and mindset when it comes to making your own needs known. We’ll explore how fear impacts our ability to listen, how to identify when you’ve stopped listening, and when nonverbal communication skills are critical to understanding. 

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  • Identify when you’re ready to start listening to your ex
    • Many factors contribute to poor communication during the divorce. Learn how past events leave us feeling hurt, angry, or resentful, and how those feelings impact our ability to communicate today.
  • Understand how listening can improve your relationship
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Healing and the Stories We Tell Ourselves with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen

Does processing your divorce feel like you’re constantly navigating life in the dark?

Often after a divorce when we seek out ways to start the healing process, it can feel like no one understands. That feeling leaves people thinking that if there are no options out there to heal from the experience we weren’t meant to heal at all, and Elizabeth Cohen is here to help.

In this episode, author, psychologist, and community creator Elizabeth Cohen shares the lessons she learned after dealing with her own divorce from her ex-husband due to substance abuse. We discuss everything from the fear and judgment that comes with telling your story to others to flipping the script and shining the spotlight back on yourself. If you’re feeling lost and unfocused while on the road to healing from divorce, you should listen to this episode.

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Learn how to recognize and correct your inner dialogue

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Key Things to Ask Yourself Before You Start Co-Parenting

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Does the idea of working with your ex to establish a co-parenting schedule fill you with dread?

Dealing with divorce while nurturing and raising children can be complicated. It requires patience, compassion, and open communication in order to create the stability children need.

Understanding how to communicate with your ex about issues regarding your children includes establishing boundaries and taking responsibility for your part in the divorce as well as your contribution to the co-parenting partnership.

In this episode, I’m sharing the most important things you should consider when entering into a co-parenting relationship and the key things you need to know in order to manage your expectations of your co-parenting team.

 

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Learn how to avoid bringing pain into your co-parenting relationship

Understand how you can avoid bringing past experiences with your ex into your current co-parenting situation and keep the...

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How Community Helps You Heal Post-Divorce with Daniel Herrold

Do you feel isolated and in need of connection after divorce? You’re definitely not alone.

Choosing who we spend time with after divorce is an intentional choice that requires us to first look at what we truly want and how we want to spend our time. 

In this episode, Divorced Over 40 creator Daniel Herrold shares his journey to creating a community for divorced individuals. During this conversation, we dive into the importance of connection and why so many people start dating too soon after divorce when what they’re truly looking for is a tribe.

 

Three Things You’ll Love About This Episode:

Learn the impact of community on your emotional recovery

During this interview Daniel shares the moment he realized the importance of community and how those connections helped him do the emotional work of divorce.

Understand how the divorce process differs between women and men

Daniel discusses how men process emotional needs post-divorce and we explore how...

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Are You Recently Divorced? 10 Reasons You're Not Alone

Have you ever watched a movie montage with a recently divorced woman and wondered why you couldn’t be more like the leading lady and just buy a new outfit and get over it?

Hollywood, the media, and American culture make it seem like divorce is a linear process, but if you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while now, you know things aren’t that simple.

 There are several uncomfortable truths that we as a society need to face about the process of divorce, including the fact that it is a process and there is no “right” amount of time to go through each stage.

In this episode, I’m revealing 10 ways that divorce can impact your life, relationships, and mindset. I’m diving into everything from finding the right support system to letting go of friendships that no longer serve you. If you’ve asked yourself more than once “is this normal?” this podcast episode is for you.

 

 

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Common Mistakes You're Making When You're Ready to Date After Divorce

How do you know when you’re truly ready to start dating again? 

According to dating and relationship expert Bella Gandhi's research, 48% of Americans are single and ready to mingle. That means there’s ample opportunity for finding love after divorce, but before we start swiping right there are a few things to consider. 

Working through the internal issues associated with self-worth and divorce is critical for success in your next relationship. There can be a lot of fear with joining the dating world, not only with the possibilities that a new relationship can bring, but managing the responsibilities of technology and safety as well.

In this episode Bella and I discuss the important questions you should ask yourself before downloading that dating app, and how to avoid some of the common mistakes that people make when making their return to the dating scene.

 

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Feeling Angry & Resentful? Here's How to Deal

One of the hardest things I had to do in the divorce process was to look at myself in the mirror and take responsibility for how I spoke to my now ex-husband.

There are profound lessons to be learned when we face the past and begin the journey of forgiveness, starting with ourselves. The weight of our past pushes against what’s possible for the future, making it nearly impossible to embrace new opportunities. 

Have you considered what the cost will be if you don’t forgive yourself? Once we pause and understand the true value of self-compassion, we’re better able to understand the urgency in facing our mistakes and moving forward.

In this episode, I’m sharing the power of self-forgiveness and the simple questions you can ask yourself to remove the weight of the responsibilities you’re carrying, making room for love and compassion in your life.

 

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  • Understand how to deal with anger from past...
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Co-Parenting & Creating a Child-Centered Co-Parenting Plan with Karen Bonnell

Do you feel like you and your ex treat parenting like a competitive sport? 

Nurturing and supporting children while going through a divorce can be difficult, but creating mutual understanding and respect between us and the other parent is critical for a peaceful transition from one household to two.

What does the ideal co-parenting situation look like? Who should have the final say in where and how our children live?

Before we’re able to create a plan that works for all members of the family, it’s important to agree upon and define what co-parenting looks like to everyone involved.

In this episode, Karen Bonnell discusses her nearly 30 years of experience helping families transition into co-parenting plans that cultivate child-centered parenting.

Listen to the full episode on Apple Podcasts or Watch it here!

Three Things You’ll Love About This Episode:

  • Understand the true definition of co-parenting
    • While getting along is always ideal, co-parenting focuses...
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Do You Respond or React to Negative Situations? There's a Difference.

Have you ever had an emotionally charged conversation that felt more like a rap battle than a method to communicate?

When it comes to divorce, emotions are at an all-time high. Living in that emotional survival mode makes every conversation carry the potential of sparking a negative reaction from one party or the other.

When is the last time you had an immediate reaction to something your ex said and you regretted it later? Often those instant reactions to sensitive topics can be spoken without thought to the long-term effects of our words.

Learning the difference between a response and a reaction allows us to practice a habit of taking back our power when it comes to our emotional well-being and our decision-making.

In this episode, I’m revealing the strategies you need to know to make a habit of responding vs. reacting to negative conversations.


 

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  • Identify the key differences between reacting and responding
    • When we...
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