Why Detachment is the Key to Collaborative Co-Parenting w/Ann Kaplan
Mar 03, 2021
Co-parenting comes with its challenges, and it can be especially tricky when we’re not always in agreement with our ex’s parenting style. However, by creating a sense of detachment between our approach and theirs, we can make the process a lot easier on everyone involved.
However, staying neutral can be easier said than done. Is there a quick-fix for staying objective, even when we would love to say something?
How do we give up trying to control the situation in a totally different household, and where should we be sending our energies instead?
In this episode, parent coach and founder of Mom-Me, Ann Kaplan shares why detachment is the key to successful co-parenting.
Three Things You’ll Love About This Episode
How to stay level-headed when a co-parent does things differently: Parents often feel attacked when they see their exes doing things differently than they would, but there’s no need to read too deep into it. Just because they do things one way, doesn’t mean they’re suggesting our way is wrong, so create some detachment and avoid overanalyzing.
How to stop our kids from baiting us into conflict with their other parent: The reason our kids try to bait us into getting involved in our co-parents’ rules is because we’re showing them we’re open to it. We have to do the work to feel genuinely detached from the second household, so when the situation arises we’re already neutral.
Why we need to stop trying to do it alone: Human beings are tribal creatures, so trying to go through difficult experiences like divorce or co-parenting on our own is counterintuitive. We have to give ourselves permission to ask for help, whether from coaches, therapists, or even friends.
Guest Bio -
Ann Kaplan is a parent coach and mother to 4 children, ages 6-16. Her holistic approach includes emotional support and home management skills as well as teaching parents effective discipline that empowers children while improving behavior. She brings her experience as a Love and Logic independent facilitator and as a life coach together to create unique support for parents on multiple fronts.