We all have self-criticism and self-sabotaging voices that hold us back, the dreaded inner critic. This voice wants to make us more acceptable to others by criticizing and correcting our behavior, so we don’t get rejected or hurt.
They are built on expectations placed on us by parents, caregivers, peers and the media; not on what actually fulfills us. It’s an attempt to control you by molding you to the world’s criteria and that you’re broken. You’re not broken, you’ve just been believing your inner critic for far too long.
If you’re struggling with negative self-talk and wondering how to silence those voices, what are the first steps you need to take? How do we separate ourselves from our inner critics?
On this episode, I talk about how to stop succumbing to the pressure of the inner critic, how to actually work with your inner critic to get more desirable outcomes and see the voices as a catalyst for growth.
3 Things We Learned From This Episode
How the inner critic can trigger a disruptive cycle
Your inner critic collaborates with other not-so-helpful parts of ourselves that when they get out of control create more harm than good. This is the pleaser, the rule maker and the perfectionist.
Why the inner critic holds us back
The inner critic wants to protect us and keep us safe, but it tends to go on a power trip when we let it take control. If we listen to it too much, we’ll remain stuck, limited and living in fear of being ourselves.
How to separate ourselves from our inner critics
The part of our personalities that we developed to protect ourselves is a small piece of who we are, not all of us. If we make our inner critic ruler of everything we think and do our relationships, work and self-esteem will plummet.
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