Divorce can truly be the greatest gift that we can give ourselves. Many people going through it are so focused on what they think they’ve lost, that they are completely unaware of what they are gaining.
This leads to them focusing on the past and seeking some way to punish themselves or their soon-to-be ex, instead of looking forward to their next best chapter. It’s so critical to start to change the focus so that we come out on the other side happier and ready to create the life we want.
What is the difference between emotional reactions and practical responses? How do we set ourselves up for a less negative divorce process? In this episode, I’m joined by nationally recognized Family Law and Mediation Attorney and podcast host, Susan Guthrie. She draws on 30 years of helping clients and her own divorce experience, and shares the roadmap to getting through divorce.
3 Things We Learned From This Episode
The difference between being past-focused and future-focused
Many people going through divorce use the process to seek revenge or retribution, or to hold onto the past, but in order to create the future we want, our approach to divorce needs to be different. Susan shares what a future-focused approach to divorce looks like in this podcast.
How to Create Your Divorce Roadmap
The first step is to get an idea of what divorce looks like in your state and what the process will entail. The basics of divorce are how assets will be divided, alimony and custody and co-parenting.
Why litigation in divorce can make things worse
Mediation is a different approach to litigating. In litigation, the mindset is focusing on the things that brought about the divorce and the facts of the broken relationship, and using that to bolster the case and throw blame. Meditation focuses on creating a new future for your family that works for everyone.
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