For most human beings, it’s terrifying to show our real selves and let people see beneath the armor we present to the world.
We see vulnerability as risky because it reveals our flaws and creates the possibility of being judged or worse, hurt. However feeling vulnerable doesn’t mean we’re in danger. It’s actually something we get to embrace.
The armor we wear is nothing more than our attempt to numb ourselves from feelings we urgently need to face. When we go through a trauma like divorce, this is where that starts to chip away. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s actually an opportunity for massive growth and self-acceptance.
You see, exposing our true feelings of fear, insecurity, and pain is a risk worth taking. When we deny our vulnerability, we cause ourselves more pain.
How can we start to brave the world without our armor and face the uncomfortable emotions we have? Why do we need to stop chasing perfection and excellence? In this episode, I share how to respond to the fear, uncertainty, and emotional exposure that vulnerability creates.
3 Things You’ll Love About This Episode
Why avoiding vulnerability prolongs our pain
When we’re healing, what we desperately need is to be seen, heard, and supported. When we avoid our vulnerability and numb ourselves, we actually make it impossible for us to be seen deeply. We end up turning our back on the very thing we desire.
How the past keeps us from facing ourselves
We tend to avoid living in the present by reverting back to the past, but that’s just another trap that keeps us from being vulnerable and experiencing the uncomfortable and terrifying feelings we have right now. The past is a shield that keeps us from experiencing our truth in this moment, and it delays our healing.
The truth about other people’s opinions
The fear of being vulnerable is rooted in the fear of being judged by others. But other people’s opinions of us are none of our business. People are focused on themselves and their own struggles, they’re not focused on us. Whatever opinions they have of us are projections based on where they are in their life, not on what is in our best interests.