In my Facebook Group, I did a reach-out to my community to hear about some of the things they’re struggling with as they continue to heal from divorce.
My community came up with some really great questions, so I decided to share the answers with all of you because I have a hunch you are asking for answers to the same questions!
The holiday season can bring up a lot of emotions around our divorces and changes to our family dynamic. This includes our children having to be around our ex’s new spouse, feelings of not being enough, and not being able to get past a betrayal. By changing our thinking around these issues, they can stop having power over us.
In today’s episode, I answer What Would Wendy Do questions from my Facebook community.
3 Things You’ll Love About This Episode
Name your feelings and get clear on the hurt that you’re feeling. When you name your feelings and get specific about the emotions that are coming up for you, you actually take the power away from them. That way you start to escape the trap of being held hostage by the past.
When our exes remarry, one of the biggest hurdles we might face is being okay with their new spouse being around our kids. Most of the time not wanting them to be around your kids is due to something being triggered within us. If we can get clear on this, we can focus on putting our kids at the center of everything.
When our marriages end over infidelity and betrayal, it’s such a natural response to want to act on our anger and hurt by retaliating through snide and bitter comments. The problem is, this only delays our healing. Retaliation is like picking a scab, it will keep exposing the wound and cause further pain, and we won’t be able to move forward.