Common Mistakes You're Making When You're Ready to Date After Divorce

How do you know when you’re truly ready to start dating again? 

According to dating and relationship expert Bella Gandhi's research, 48% of Americans are single and ready to mingle. That means there’s ample opportunity for finding love after divorce, but before we start swiping right there are a few things to consider. 

Working through the internal issues associated with self-worth and divorce is critical for success in your next relationship. There can be a lot of fear with joining the dating world, not only with the possibilities that a new relationship can bring, but managing the responsibilities of technology and safety as well.

In this episode Bella and I discuss the important questions you should ask yourself before downloading that dating app, and how to avoid some of the common mistakes that people make when making their return to the dating scene.

 

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Feeling Angry & Resentful? Here's How to Deal

One of the hardest things I had to do in the divorce process was to look at myself in the mirror and take responsibility for how I spoke to my now ex-husband.

There are profound lessons to be learned when we face the past and begin the journey of forgiveness, starting with ourselves. The weight of our past pushes against what’s possible for the future, making it nearly impossible to embrace new opportunities. 

Have you considered what the cost will be if you don’t forgive yourself? Once we pause and understand the true value of self-compassion, we’re better able to understand the urgency in facing our mistakes and moving forward.

In this episode, I’m sharing the power of self-forgiveness and the simple questions you can ask yourself to remove the weight of the responsibilities you’re carrying, making room for love and compassion in your life.

 

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Co-Parenting & Creating a Child-Centered Co-Parenting Plan with Karen Bonnell

Do you feel like you and your ex treat parenting like a competitive sport? 

Nurturing and supporting children while going through a divorce can be difficult, but creating mutual understanding and respect between us and the other parent is critical for a peaceful transition from one household to two.

What does the ideal co-parenting situation look like? Who should have the final say in where and how our children live?

Before we’re able to create a plan that works for all members of the family, it’s important to agree upon and define what co-parenting looks like to everyone involved.

In this episode, Karen Bonnell discusses her nearly 30 years of experience helping families transition into co-parenting plans that cultivate child-centered parenting.

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Do You Respond or React to Negative Situations? There's a Difference.

Have you ever had an emotionally charged conversation that felt more like a rap battle than a method to communicate?

When it comes to divorce, emotions are at an all-time high. Living in that emotional survival mode makes every conversation carry the potential of sparking a negative reaction from one party or the other.

When is the last time you had an immediate reaction to something your ex said and you regretted it later? Often those instant reactions to sensitive topics can be spoken without thought to the long-term effects of our words.

Learning the difference between a response and a reaction allows us to practice a habit of taking back our power when it comes to our emotional well-being and our decision-making.

In this episode, I’m revealing the strategies you need to know to make a habit of responding vs. reacting to negative conversations.


 

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Why Detachment is the Key to Collaborative Co-Parenting w/Ann Kaplan

Uncategorized Mar 03, 2021

Co-parenting comes with its challenges, and it can be especially tricky when we’re not always in agreement with our ex’s parenting style. However, by creating a sense of detachment between our approach and theirs, we can make the process a lot easier on everyone involved. 

However, staying neutral can be easier said than done. Is there a quick-fix for staying objective, even when we would love to say something? 

How do we give up trying to control the situation in a totally different household, and where should we be sending our energies instead?

In this episode, parent coach and founder of Mom-Me, Ann Kaplan shares why detachment is the key to successful co-parenting.

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What Would Wendy Do - Part 2

Uncategorized Feb 24, 2021

I did another reach-out to my community to hear about some of the things they’re struggling with as they continue to heal from divorce. 

You are not the person you were in your marriage, and part of the recovery process is figuring out who you are today. 

Having self-confidence in who we are and showing up authentically is how we get to build the life that we want going forward. 

How do we deal with our relationships with in-laws? Why do we have to put kids in the center of everything? How can we create affirmations that resonate?

In this episode, I continue with the What Would Wendy Do series and answer more of your questions!


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  • How to put the children at the center of our relationships with ex-in-laws
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Keep Lawyers Out of Your Divorce: A Lawyer's Opinion w/Erin Levine

Uncategorized Feb 17, 2021

Most of the time, when divorces go horribly wrong it’s because we’re afraid of the unknown and what’s on the other side. As a result, we lawyer up to protect ourselves, but by doing that we’re only fueling the fire.

The truth is, far too many divorces end up messy because we put lawyers at the center of the process, instead of seeing them as just one piece in a complicated puzzle.

How can we stop our divorces from becoming more acrimonious than they need to be? If lawyers are only one piece of the puzzle, who else should we be looking to for support?

In this episode, Founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, Erin Levine shares how to make divorce an empowering experience. 

And click here to sign up for my FREE Summit, Beyond Divorce: Learn the Secrets to Move Forward Joyfully, Find Forgiveness and Experience Peace airing LIVE February 23rd @ 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET 

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How to Change Your Money Story & Create Wealth & Abundance

Uncategorized Feb 10, 2021

Every one of us has a story about money - a set of deep-rooted beliefs and thoughts about wealth that color and shape our lives and our experiences. 

When you form a mindset around money, it starts shaping every decision we make. If you don’t confront the stories and biases about yourself, you’ll end up limiting yourself.

Money isn’t just physical currency or the money in our bank accounts, it is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. We often think that wealth is something we have no control over, that our money reality is determined by our external circumstances, but creating wealth is actually an inside-out process. 

Your world and your wealth are 100% created by you, and if you set the right intentions and believe without contradictions, you can write a money story of abundance. 

How do we examine our money story and remove the limitations we have around wealth? 

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Rebuilding Your Finances After Divorce w/Hirsch Serman

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2021

We often hear about the toll divorce takes on our emotions, but it’s also a financially costly exercise, and one we need to be prepared for ahead of time. 

Thinking about life after divorce is tough while we’re in the thick of it, but we have to remember that this is the start of a new chapter. We have to start making financial decisions our future selves will benefit from. 

What do those decisions look like, and how can we get better at making them? Where does the new divorcee with no experience looking through finances even begin?

In this episode, Founder of Lifecycle Financial, Hirsch Serman shares how to keep finances stable during and after divorce. 

And to sign up for my FREE Summit, Beyond Divorce: Learn the Secrets to Move Forward Joyfully, Find Forgiveness and Experience Peace airing LIVE February 23rd @ 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET click here: https://www.wendysterling.net/beyonddivorce

 

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3 Tips Guaranteed to Improve Your Co-Parenting Relationship

Uncategorized Jan 27, 2021

Parenting comes with its fair share of difficulties at the best of times, and when we add divorce to the mix, we’re faced with an extra layer of frustration and stress. 

However, successful co-parenting is vital for our kids' best interests, so we have to learn how to put our own issues aside.

Staying cordial with our exes is easier said than done when we’re struggling with feelings of resentment, anger, and hurt towards them. Top that off with being skeptical of their parenting style, co-parenting is full of landmines. That being said, staying mature in our dealings with them is doable if we’re willing to put in the work. 

So, where do we start? How do we stay focused on the goal of raising our kids and putting their needs first, in spite of the challenges? What can we do to keep our co-parenting relationship as drama-free as possible?

In this episode, I'm sharing my top tips for effective co-parenting. 


 

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