Sometimes it feels like society tells us that showing our pain is a sign of weakness, and this is especially true for people going through a divorce.
We put pressure on ourselves to portray an image that we’re doing great even when we’re having a hard time.
There is no template for how we should look or feel as we struggle through the pain of divorce, but the truth is, we will struggle with sadness, loneliness, doubt and fear.
Part of my work is to take the shame and embarrassment out of divorce to allow and give permission for women to feel their pain without feeling weak. How do we cope with the hard days of divorce? How can we rediscover ourselves and also stop feeling ashamed of having those bad days?
In this episode, I share how to navigate the emotions of divorce and reasons to appreciate this new season in your life.
3 Things We Learned From This Episode
You are allowed to feel crappy as you...
We all have self-criticism and self-sabotaging voices that hold us back, the dreaded inner critic. This voice wants to make us more acceptable to others by criticizing and correcting our behavior, so we don’t get rejected or hurt.
They are built on expectations placed on us by parents, caregivers, peers and the media; not on what actually fulfills us. It’s an attempt to control you by molding you to the world’s criteria and that you’re broken. You’re not broken, you’ve just been believing your inner critic for far too long.
If you’re struggling with negative self-talk and wondering how to silence those voices, what are the first steps you need to take? How do we separate ourselves from our inner critics?
On this episode, I talk about how to stop succumbing to the pressure of the inner critic, how to actually work with your inner critic to get more desirable outcomes and see the voices as a catalyst...
Free but scared and empty, that’s how I felt the moment I told my husband I wanted a divorce. I knew that it wasn’t working, and I couldn’t recognize myself when I looked in the mirror, and I didn’t know who I was without him.
This was the beginning of my journey to becoming a divorced recovery specialist.
To initiate my true transformation, I had to search for answers, rediscover myself, stand in my power and design a life I love. I know it’s not an easy process because I’ve been on that journey.
If you’re feeling stuck and don’t know how to get your transformation going, I’m here to tell you that you can do it. Whether you’re still deciding whether to stay or go, about to file, going through the divorce or you’re on the other side of it, this podcast is for you.
Welcome to The Divorced Woman’s Guide Podcast. I’m so happy you’ve decided to...
So many couples are working within very close proximity with one another these days that is it challenging to create space or leave the house. And your home is probably feeling especially small if you are someone contemplating divorce or just started the process and are still living your your soon-to-be-ex.
Either way, many people are considering if NOW is the right time to file or if this is the decision they still want to make. While you shouldn’t rush to make an impulsive decision just because your spouse may be annoying to you, I want to share 4 tips on what you can do now to help you decide if and when the time is right for you - aka move forward.
1. Free writing/Journaling:
I love to journal and free write! Why? Because it helps me sort through what I feel AND let's me say things I would never say out loud. You might ask yourself questions like why do I want a divorce? What am I most scared about...